The Different Sides of a PersonWho am I., recently I had another long, yet very interesting conversation with my cousin. This time it was all about the different sides of a person, and their personality. Do you know that it is rare to find someone who is the same, all of the time, with everyone. We usually put on different faces and personalities to suit the needs or the expectations of the other. Now forget the idea of showing off, or acting. I mean really adjusting to different types of people, knowledge and surroundings.
Apparently I am good at this, as per my cousin. I am not so sure. I, as she has said can deal with people of all walks of life, whether they be royal, your average Joe blogs, right down to the cleaner.
Recently I started hanging out with a group of westerners, for you guys who know me, I usually hang out and chill with mostly Arabs, but I did start the whole western thing. You know you all pay separate at the bar, in restaurants and stuff. You don’t call late at night, you don’t just drop by their house without an appointment (you have to be invited) nothing wrong with all this you hear, it’s just different. It took a bit of getting my head around. But the biggest difference I noticed, and here is the subject, (Emotion) we as Arabs, or who have Arab blood, have so much emotion, or should I say, show so much emotion. I am not suggesting that we are true in the emotion we portray or give, but none the less, we show it much more. I never realized how much emotion we have, and that was very evident in my relations with this new group. They say the British are a cold bunch. Somehow we are. That’s because we have lived in a cold society where we as kids were thought not to speak to strangers, and why- well because in England many bad crimes happy daily, from rape to murder. It’s not safe to speak with strangers. You may ask yourself why there is so much crime in these countries, well lack or religion and faith may come into the arena, but that is another subject, or debate???
Anyway, back to Emotions. Emotions are very important, they basically drive everything in your life, from the buzz you feel, to the excitement something brings, down to the thought of emotion you might feel by doing something wrong, that is what stops you, knowing what you may feel.
Westerners are tough, they don’t show their feeling so much, not openly. They suppress them, and I am only speaking from experience. I think that being able to open your mind and not judge is probably the best asset anyone can have. I certainly don’t have that ability yet. I am working on it. I always judge, not verbally, but always internally. Now by not judging you are learning, because you are opening yourself up to new ideas, people, culture, conditions, heritage, history, even the future. Don’t judge, can we do that. Now its all intertwined, we are using emotions to judge people, what drives us, is it our emotions, or our judgments, we judge a person, create a profile and then act a certain way because we believe that is the way they should be treated. Do we show the workers here in Qatar respect, only some of us? Generally we are rude, and impolite, its evident.
Part Two to Follow; it will all come together-----
